Monday, December 9, 2024

Joe The Dog

 





Only recently has old Joe lost his eyesight completely. His life story is untold, kept only in his little head. My sister, Myra, found him walking down the middle of a country road—beaten up, broken, missing part of one foot, with a broken jaw and most of his teeth gone. Even his tail was broken, and he was blind in one eye. At the time, I had a hard, somewhat cynical view of Joe. I thought he should be taken to a humane shelter, where they could care for him and do what they do for old dogs in such terrible shape. But Myra and my niece, Harper, opened the car door, scooped up the tiny, shaggy mess, and brought him home. They called my brother, Bill, and asked him if he could tend to Joe for the remainder of his life. Bill agreed, despite my skeptical attitude.

 

At first, Joe wasn’t sure about the new arrangement. He was given a bath and food, taken to a vet, and given a fluffy, warm bed. But Joe had been through so much cruelty in his life that he thought he was dreaming and would wake up in a trash heap as usual. Day after day, he found soft food to eat. He was carried over rocky paths—painful for Joe with only three decent feet. But still, he was treated like he’d won some kind of lottery. A sweater, a fluffy bed, toys, treats, meals, and clean water.

 

Finally, the broken tail began to wag. Joe started to realize he wasn’t dreaming. With his tongue dangling through his broken teeth, hanging to one side, he opened his one good eye wide and smiled the happiest, most grateful smile you could imagine. His response to every gift seemed to ask, “For me?”

 

He played games he’d never played before. He could bark, growl, and pretend to be a Rottweiler guarding a junkyard. Bill would go along with Joe’s adventures, pretending to be the thief or the robber. In every game, Bill let Joe win.

 

As I mentioned, Joe lost his sight in his good eye about three days ago. At first, he looked around and blinked, hoping that maybe the lights were just out. He bumped into obstacles, disoriented. But, like with his broken tail, lost foot, broken jaw, and missing teeth, Joe accepted it. This was just another thing to live with. I visited him last night. He barked when I walked in. I spoke, and his tail nearly wagged. “I guess you heard,” he seemed to say. “It’s no big deal. I can out-smell any bloodhound. Eyesight’s overrated.”

 

I held him and pet him for a few minutes, then took him outside. I let him brush against me as he walked in a small area. Every time he touched me, his broken tail wagged. He didn’t seem bitter. “Bear with me,” he seemed to say. “It takes me a little while to figure out where I am.” And then he wagged his tail and smiled, his tongue hanging out through the big gap between a few teeth in his lower jaw.

 

Joe is old—probably between 12 and 15 years old. Joe is frail, and it takes so much just for him to get around and get comfortable. He has to gum his soft food, but Joe is happy. He has the assurance that Bill will be home, that he will have a good meal, a warm bed, a bath, and a big, fluffy towel. He may not see, but he has visions. He has peace.

 

Joe’s life, once marked by neglect and cruelty, is now full of kindness. He may not understand everything around him, but he knows love when he feels it. Joe would say what Fanny Crosby once said:

“The merciful God has put His hands over my eyes, and shut out from me the sight of many instances of cruelty, bitter unkindness, and misfortune.”

Fanny went on to write “Blessed Assurance”—perhaps Joe’s favorite song.



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Sunday, January 21, 2024

Thank You Bill

 



Bill? He is a rather complicated subject. Like all Coker’s, when mixed with Hillhouses, there is a tendency to be an a-hole. However, a-holes can be the best people as well. Bill falls into that category. He can be so incredibly concerned about an individual that he will get deeply emotional about their overall condition, but he also has the famous, Coker-switch. I’m afraid we all have this too; it is when you have finally had enough of someone’s BS and you completely cut them out of your life forever. Bill is really rather Zen-like. He can be happy regardless of his surroundings. He does not require any stimuli. He will indulge on occasion, but he can have just about as much fun with or without comfort. Of course, I love my brother. No human has ever tested me more than Bill. But, as one might expect, he has also put forth a tremendous effort to partner with me and make things happen as a team. The only way to deal with Bill is to get yourself a bull-rope and some rosin and pray your grip can keep you in the saddle. Being with Bill can be the wildest ride you’ve ever had and it can throw you further than you’ve ever been thrown. The term, “Never a dull moment,” had Bill in mind when it first came out. This is why he attracts fun people. Nearly everyone who is into having fun will be drawn to Bill. To people who want to have fun, Bill is the right kind of flame for their marshmallow. He projects the environment for comedic relief. He is not so much a deep thinker as he is a storer of thought. He doesn’t meditate or dwell on anything, but he photographically stores complete works in some sort of massive, vault-like unit in his brain. He can pull up information he stored in his library years ago. Therefore, do not – I repeat – do not get into an argument with Bill; you cannot win.

Bill has pretty much ran the family show and/or business, for his entire life. Mom calls him “The Boss” when she isn’t accusing him of being ill. Management always has this kind of reputation. However, upon reflection, our family could not have made it without his leadership. During our childhood, we faced some incredibly difficult situations. Dad had a really bad drinking problem and we somehow, almost ended up in a cult-like church-environment. Without having Bill around, steering us out of those situations, we may have ended up on Jerry Springer or as the subjects of a scary docudrama.

Bill had a Yoda growing up. Aunt Mable taught him “The Force”, and equipped him with all of the necessary weapons he’d need to get through life. If you want to know what Mable was like, see Bill. They were two peas in a pod. These details make his story interesting. Like all heroes (See Joseph Campbell), he was called away from his village. George Lucas borrowed from Campbell’s monomyth to tell the story of Luke Skywalker, and the reason it is called a monomyth is due to the fact that it is always the same for all heroes. When Bill was called away, he made Florida his home. Of course, there were other galaxies, like Corning, New York, but Luke – I mean Bill – had to go far, far away in order to become a Jedi. All heroes return to the village where they started; from Dorothy to Harry Potter, this is the part where the hero comes back to the village and brings the boon home. They renovate the old home-place and they renovate the entire neighborhood and they take care of their elders. Bill has been doing the most in this area lately. He has been good company and a lot of good support for mom.

Today, his age matches the traditional age of retirement in The US. This seems fitting as it coincides with Bill’s completion of the typical, hero’s journey. Of course, there is always a sequel.

Thank You Bill.

Thank You Bill